FIFA World Cup 2014
A week away.
I'm excited, nervous, and wonder whats going to happen. A lot has happened in one month and its only the beginning. At the end of this month a decision will be made on what happens next in my life. Everything could change.
Does that happen to you? When you are given a time frame to make a decision? It could be one day, one week, or like me one month. I can already feel myself wondering.
Everything can change.
I believe in taking risks and I go for my dreams. It's not easy. It scares me, but I continue to play.
Maybe thats why I'm excited for the World Cup 2014 to begin. Everyone plays three games that will either send them to the final 16 or send them home. And even if they get sent home it doesn't make them losers because they were able to play in the World Cup!!!
I'll be cheering on USA! And I will cheer on Ecuador. But really, I will cheer for all the teams for making it into the World Cup and reminding me to work hard and never give up.
Good days and Bad days
I'm at a time in my life where I'm focused on building knowledge on what I already know. I'm hoping to continue, but don't really know what is going to happen. All I can do is try.
I have good days and I have bad days, I think like anybody else. I wonder if I am making the right choices. I wonder if all my efforts are in vain or if in time they will result in something great.
I don't know.
Soon I will be attending a very special wedding, not as a guest but as an honored member of the bridal party. The closer the wedding date is the more I get excited about the dancing. The music fills the room and gets the people going. There is joy and there is laughter. I love to dance. Its one of those things that gets me out of my head, that fills me with energy. Its one of those things that can make a good day be great or a bad day get better.
If you don't believe me, think about Pharrell's "Happy" and how its global recognition sparked a little something in all of us.
This letter is dedicated to those young adults who are about to embark on their college journey and those, like me, who have learned a great lesson.
Courses Expire. Some you must retake if older then 3-5 years.
GPA NEVER Expires. Even if those old classes don't count.
Loans/Debt DO NOT Expire. And you have to pay (no pun intended) for more recent classes.
In the past I ran away a lot. I would run away from my fears by either taking a long walk outside by myself (didn't matter the time of day, weather, location) or if the fear was big enough (and I was old enough) I bought a plane ticket and left the country.
I don't know if running away from your fears is the answer, but for me it was part of the solution. I needed to be on my own so I can come up with a solution that worked, For Me.
And just so we're clear (and completely honest) I want you to know my fears were masked with anger. It didn't take much to make me mad with adults. (I thought they should know better)
It's your turn. I dare you to take a look at your own tendencies and see why you do that thing you do.
Can it work for you, if you make a slight adjustment in perspective?
(Like me when instead of running away from fear I saw it as getting clarity on a solution)
Are you masking something else?
(like how I masked anger with fear)
One last thing:
I've done lots of slight shifts here and there over the years. The angry person I used to be no longer exists. I'm a lot calmer. I face my fears. I continue to learn and improve.
And it feels so good!
I want you to feel good too!
Be yourself. Everybody is telling you to own who you are with no apologies, but here's the thing that I've noticed:
Sometimes you DO have to apologize for who are being.
Consider Amy: Amy is a loving mother of two married for seven years. People really like her and there is an ease about her. It's like you meet her and you spill your deepest darkest secrets to her. Amy also is ALWAYS late and I mean Every. Single. Time. Ok, fine sometimes she makes it just in time. Recently she had a job interview downtown and she was late. They pointed it out to her as not acceptable for this particular position. She told me that if someone doesn't accept how she is then she would rather not work for them and she's just never going to change.
What do you think?
Personally it made me wonder. What if Oprah called and told her to be at X location at Z time and she would win a new house, new car, and cost of college tuition for her kids? Would she be late? Would you be late?
I'm not one to be late so I can not fathom this rational. However, it did give me a chance to reflect about the new "well its too bad if you don't like this about me because thats how I am and I'm not going to change it for you or anybody else so if you don't like it then you can just let me be" attitude going around lately.
Here is a simple Method you can use and a reminder of who you REALLY are:
Happy New Year! Welcome 2014...
I want to start out by asking you something...
What do YOU like most about yourself?
Is it a physical part of you? Is it your personality?
And here are 2 other important questions to ask yourself...
"You can see that?!"
As powerful as I am.... there's this other side. I'm also sensitive. I don't like to share that. Actually now that I've shared it I've got to admit IT FEELS GOOD.
Ok, so this LIGHT of information took place while talking to a great friend of mine, Tanya Geisler. In this chat I seriously thought "You can see that?!" Yep, she sees me.
But the best part is I see me. And life couldn't be better.
I want the same for you.
Be Daring. Dare to see yourself and I mean REALLY see yourself. If you already do, then great! Then dare to see others for who they are even if its not who you are.
Tanya is a woman who not only sees the many sides of me but she also welcomes it.
In our chat she reminds us to Honor the fullest expression of who we are and who others are.
And if you don't know who you are or trying to figure it out: a wonderful place to be is LOOKING! (per TG ;)
Check out the video below.
Awareness Around Offering...
Challenge:As we begin all the festivities of the holiday spirit, Be OPEN.
What feels good to you?
And no matter what see if you can BE THANKFUL.
Here is a simple test you can take for choosing wisely.
1. Take your question or dilemma and write it down. Imagine you are about to hand it to the person with the answer, the person who will help.
2. Ok. Now go get a drink a water. Take a few sips.
3. Pick up that piece of paper and imagine it was left for you by a person you love very much. You care so much that you only want the best for them. Read it. Then respond to this person. Seriously, this works!!!
I say this because I love you and you mean the world to me. As tough as this may be, unable to know which route to take next I see in you the passion you have to inspire others to be healthy, to love, to enjoy life. You live to influence the world to be better. You have done this and you have all the tools. Don't ever doubt yourself. Don't question titles, rights, and don't let anything stand in your way of what you were born to do!
Check out the "Play Date" I had with the lovely, gorgeous, talented, Alexandra Franzen. Keep reading by clicking below.
As we take our next steps, let us be aware.Whether you like it or not, the people around you listen to what you say and watch what you do. It could be your kids, siblings, coworkers, neighbors, or a random stranger.
You never who's watching.
What kind of example are you setting?
#1 Is it the one where others say, "I don't want to be like that person."
#2 Or is it, "I want to be like that. How can I be like that? I want to be a better person."
In the last month I've thought these two things about different people (they don't know it). Even the people I don't want to be like inspire me to be better. And those who are inspirational will forever remain in my gratitude.
I will not try to be like anyone because to copy someone else is plagiarism (pause for my funny thought). I will strive to be the best version of myself I can be.
Be the best version of yourself! And in doing so, you will unknowingly inspire others.
To Shadow: Thank you for setting the example of staying true to yourself from beginning to the very end of life. I will never forget that.
To a wonderful little Boy: Thank you for setting the example of growing up knowing who you are even when others want to label you. You know who you are and thats all that matters.
Has someone set an example to you? What was it and why has it left a lasting impression.
I like to play.
Playing a game like chess leaves one who wins
and one who loses.
And you start over
to try again.
I'm back baby!
Stronger than ever.
This Summer, during a much needed break to start over I discovered 3 things:
1-Children. I get them. They are mini buddhas who teach me so much. I too teach them, you know, the important things in life, such as how to cut paper or tie your shoes. Expect "Note to Self" inspired by the awesomeness of children.
2-Alexandra Franzen. We met in NYC via my rockin' coaches Michelle and Tanya. Such a sweet and wonderful human being! I took her Los Angeles workshop and was floored as a student of hers. Charisma! Expect to see a video Interview featuring this lovely lady ;)
3-Adventures of Being a Woman. Officially launching October 7th with a "Monthly, Period" Newsletter on the 7th of each month. Cause who wants yet another daily or weekly email?! Not me. Check it out!
SUMMARY. Come back stronger!!!!!!
Got the world figured out?
I did, until it came crashing down. I had no choice but to start over and rebuild.